For the love of Home Ownership

Easy to say and yes I am happy, actually I am ecstatic that I finally entered the home owner elite. Well it seems that way at the moment even though I know we are no more elite than anyone else. In actual fact nothing has really changed. I have to pay money to someone else every month for the privileged of staying in a house. I do not like where I am going with this. I love my new house, all mine now I need to make it my own. The mortgage and insurance are taken care of and I have my new carpets arriving next week so all is well.

Sunday, July 12, 2009

Tips On How To Save A Relationship After Infidelity

By Ricardo d Argence

To be honest, everyone who reads this will probably say no. When you reach the point of infidelity, your relationship has hit the lowest point it has ever been. It's one of the biggest reasons why marriages and other relationships go south. However, cheating is simply a symptom of a bigger issue. Even though it may be the worse thing in the world to experience, you need to keep from focusing on it in order to save your relationship.

We understand it's not okay to cheat. We also realize that if it happened, then there is a reason for it. Something has to be broken in the relationship and it's up to you to figure it out. If you can overcome this obstacle you may be able to save the relationship.

We've put together a few tips that can help you get started on your road to recovery. It's not going to be easy, but utilizing each of them will make it more manageable.

When you confront the other person, take charge. We understand that the cheating might be your fault, but fixing the issue is going to be hanging on your shoulders. In the beginning you're not going to be able to make your partner do something, and you can't wait for something to happen or it never will.

If you can do this in the beginning, then you'll feel better about the relationship. Showing him or her that you're in control will be a monumental feat. When you show strength and independence, they'll be more apt to listen to how you feel.

It's easy to play the blame game, but it's only going to make things worse. Remember, the idea is to rebuild your relationship, and if all you do is blame one another, the situation will never be resolved. Just let this part go and you'll thank us for it later.

This can be difficult, but the best thing you can do is not expect an apology and don't fish for one. You'll get one, if the relationship can be saved, but if you spend timing trying to get them to admit how much they hurt you, you won't be spending the time you need to be spending fixing the relationship.

When it's all said and done you have to find out why. Obviously your relationship is broken for some reason, and if you can figure it out, it will be easier to save it. If you can't get past this point, the relationship will most likely fail.

At the end of the day it's going to come down to brutal honesty. No one likes to hear everything that is said during these conversations, but if you want to save the relationship, then you have to keep your emotions in check. Even though your spouse's responses will sound like excuses, you have to get to the root of the problem. It's the only way you'll fix the relationship.

Learn to trust again. In many ways, this is the toughest thing to do after infidelity. The trust has been broken, and it will be hard to get it back, but you need to be able to trust your partner again. No relationship has ever succeeded based on suspicion and paranoia.

There are many resources available to help you recover after infidelity, and you should make use of them. Repairing your relationship is hard enough, no matter what, so take the extra step and get the help you need to make things good again.

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